Dating the wrong guy
If these tell tale signs are part of your man, it might e time to reconsider.
Are guys unkind to you or unreliable or make promises they can't keep or won't commit? As a child I allowed people to treat me in ways that were insensitive, and at times even abusive because I was told I HAD TO BE a 'nice girl'. I was also scared of men abandoning me - I didn't like to be on my own that I did whatever it took to get them to like me. He is a walking contradiction If these signs sound familiar - you need to re think who you date.
Without a basic similarity in how you treat others and the code you live by, it is very difficult to understand men and get along.
Long-term compatibility is based on sharing the same or very similar core values.
I got so seduced by the fascination and frustration and on and off drama... You often have to tip toe around on eggshells with him 8. His is either a workaholic or has no drive, no goals, no aspirations 16. Instead value yourself more, and if it is not an absolute yes, rule of thumb is it's generally a 'no.
These guys used to 'intrigue' me and I would find myself obsessing about them even when they behaved like they could easily live without me. You always feel like you have to prove yourself to him 17. He makes constant derogatory remarks about your friends and family 19. He plays games and always manipulates you to get what he wants 25. After all we cannot expect to find Mr Right when we keep dating Mr Right Now.
Do the guys you date make you feel bad about yourself? Do you date a guy like this and hope he may change? So I guess it comes as no surprise that I dated the wrong guys. I learned the hard way that these guys have such an enormous ego they usually always have one woman they can 'fall back on' as they always need to have someone in the wings and there is always a woman who will welcome these guys with open arms. You are into his 'potential' rather than facing the reality 12. He speaks down to you or/and make disrespectful remarks 14. Build up a relationship with yourself before you start building a relationship with someone else. Remember when we settle for less, we ALWAYS get less than we settle for.
So I gathered the girls sitting next to me and told them we ought to be nice and go say hi. He began to hang out with my crowd and was accepted. All my friends commented on how amazing we were together. The times he showed up an hour late and then spent the rest of the evening apologizing. Friends began to tell me they had seen him with another girl. A famous statesman once said, “Fool me once, shame on you. He thought because I was wholesome and good I could save him. Part of me admired him for his honesty and courage, but most of me wanted to claw out his eyes. Emotions cannot be the foundation for a relationship. You have to take it slow and learn about each other before you make any commitment to become exclusive. And ask your true and close friends for their honest instincts about him.It could be the he way he looks at you, a change in his habits, or his tone of voice. But, if your gut tells you something is amiss, please pay attention.That’s it – the seven red flags that tell you your man is not the right guy for you. As your dating coach, I want you to find and enjoy a happy, healthy, lasting love-filled relationship.To understand men, know that how you handle the situation matters.For example, if you choose to forgive the lie, do you start snooping looking for more lies, or do you let it go and try to move on?