Dating after forty
She mistrusts men and often blames herself for the rejection she’s felt, believing that she just wasn’t good enough.She says things like “I need him to say he wants a relationship, and then I’ll open up,” or “Once he gets to know me, he probably won’t like me.” The Scaredy Cat may put her guy through lots of tests before she feels confident that he’s truly interested.She hasn’t mastered the life skill of introspection, so she’s blinded by her bitterness.It doesn’t occur to her that she might be the problem even though every date and relationship seems to end the same way.
The wall she has erected is just too high for him to climb in order to get to the other side.
When he passes those tests or shows he has feelings for her, she questions it and might up the ante.
She picks fights, picks the wrong guys, or maneuvers relationships to end because it gives her control.
The Bitter Gal The Bitter Gal is angry — usually about everything, but especially about men. A guy never has a chance, even he is the nicest guy in the world and really likes her.
(Which usually doesn’t last very long since, no matter how pretty and smart she is, she is no fun to be around.) The truth is that The Bitter Gal has been playing the victim for most (if not all) of her life.