Breaking up after 7 years dating
Right now we see each other 4-5 times a week, and I mostly I stay at his place.He also has this professional project that’s a big priority.There are also people who win the Mega-Millions lottery with a single ticket.Just because it’s theoretically possible doesn’t mean that it’s going to happen to you, and betting the farm that you’re the exception is a very good way to end up without a farm.I truly believe that a lot of couples don’t have what we have, but a lot of those couples still have more commitment…and therein lies the rub… See, I edited Sophie’s letter for brevity (really, I did!), where she mentioned how her relationship started…seeing each other once a week, then twice a week, then three times a week.I told him that, regardless of what the future holds, I won’t regret any of the time we’ve had together because I love him.So I realized that I said I’d wait for him, but I still find myself trying to pressure him to take the next step.
Had she not taken this stance, her boyfriend would have bailed, and she would not have the chance of going the distance.
If he doesn’t want to marry you, it’s time for him to let you go. Only some version of “I’m not ready,” or “I’m not sure”. What you don’t want is to be the woman who holds on, hopefully, giving him everything he wants and sacrificing everything that you want.
I know someone who has spent 7 years – her childbearing years – waiting for her boyfriend to propose. If you’re willing to be that woman – the one who waits forever for the day that never comes, then that’s your prerogative.
She’s just (rightfully) insecure that her boyfriend’s afraid of taking the next step. Another thing she can do is still seeing him but decrease her level of commitment until he steps up to the plate. That will keep her busy and less available and appear more confidence around him because other guys adore her. And she might get lucky along the way by finding the right man whom she’s crazily attracted to who is ready and available for her.
But what course of action gives Sophie better options? Now cut the patience, get your answers, or move on. It’s a losing battle for any woman to get attached to a man who doesn’t want to man up.